It could be worse

Today in the Yours office we received a letter from a reader asking us for advice - it went something like this:

Dear Yours

When our granddaughter (36) told us she was a lesbian we tried to accept it, but now they’re getting married and have invited us to the wedding. I obviously want her to be happy, but don’t feel I can accept the invitation because we don’t agree with her choice. Do you have any advice?

Yours Jane (scribbled out and replaced with) Lyn surname illegible

It's hit a bit of a raw nerve with me this week so Jane/Lyn or whatever your name is - I have this to say to you:

Weddings are about two people standing up in front of their most treasured friends and family and declaring in front of them all that they have found the one, single person in the world who makes them feel truly happy, loved and special.

It doesn't matter what sex, colour or religion they are and it doesn't matter whether or not you agree with their match or the way they're getting married, or who is on the guest list or whether your children have been invited. What matters is that two people have asked you to share in their special day. They want you to be there to share their happiness and I think you should respect that.

You should put aside your issues, gripes and grievances and remember that a wedding isn't about you and your opinions or issues - it's about two people who love each other and want to be together forever - and in this day and age that's something that deserves celebrating.

So Jane/Lyn - I say suck it up, stop being so damn selfish and be there to support your Granddaughter on her special day.

If anyone would like a wedding related fight this week I'm well and truly up for it - so bring it on (in the most ladylike fashion of course!)